tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post9015493553230185444..comments2023-09-26T20:57:09.272+10:00Comments on Reminiscing Is...: Do you play games?Azzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09788116476193441229noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post-83727622434517731282013-09-04T11:54:10.876+10:002013-09-04T11:54:10.876+10:00Oh yeah I have definitely learned not to hesitate ...Oh yeah I have definitely learned not to hesitate anymore, after what happened last time. This time I am going for it immediately (and already have actually, more on that soon hehe), but yeah, my fear of asking them out is completely gone after the last attempt. I hope that is the same for you too, after what you've learned from that experience you described.Azzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09788116476193441229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post-61867244603866571632013-09-03T05:30:46.123+10:002013-09-03T05:30:46.123+10:00I tend to be quite clueless about girls who are in...I tend to be quite clueless about girls who are interested in me, and even more clueless about those that I'm interested in. <br /><br />However I have had the experience where if you wait too long to make a move, the chance suddenly passes. The girl may move on, or another guy may play his cards right earlier than you. <br /><br />I know the exact moment I lost this girl to one of my close friends, all because I was too shy/hesitant to make a move. When I finally did, I already knew I had lost, but felt the need to get it out anyway. And I felt a lot better just throwing it out there rather than keeping it inside.<br /><br />So I guess it's better to day it out loud than to not say it all. You become a stronger person regardless of the outcome.Jer Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03099648369005650931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post-85351028917796228272013-08-23T21:27:28.825+10:002013-08-23T21:27:28.825+10:00"Surely, fancying someone shouldn't be th..."Surely, fancying someone shouldn't be this hard?" I have often thought that exact thing many times before.<br /><br />Great to get some female perspective too Risha, very insightful! And, I have no fear about asking her for drinks or something (well, just a little. Or a lot), my main dilemma sat with the whole 'be yourself' versus 'try and be more funnier and interesting on purpose'. But, I like what you said, so I am thinking the 'be yourself' is the way to go.<br /><br />"but then again, I do have a thing for slightly awkward and completely clueless boys" haha, great to know that there is an audience for that out there. :)Azzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09788116476193441229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post-8348845009994058162013-08-22T21:58:59.691+10:002013-08-22T21:58:59.691+10:00Maybe I've gotten a little less patient as I&#...Maybe I've gotten a little less patient as I've gotten older, but I really don't do well with men trying to 'guess' what I like/ playing by some arbitrary 'rules' and I honestly haven't the time/energy/inclination to play games anymore. Surely, fancying someone shouldn't be <b>this</b> hard? <br /><br />I've always been a big proponent of being completely relaxed and comfortable with oneself. I think that's really important- to not be uncomfortable in your own skin and constantly second-guess yourself. It makes it all the easier to genuinely connect with someone and actually get to know them. I also think it's important to be upfront about things- I'd support asking this work colleague if she wants to grab a drink sometime. It's simple, there isn't a lot of pressure, and well, who knows? She might say yes. And she might not.. but it doesn't change anything from what it currently is, except that nobody is sitting around overthinking it.<br /><br />Sorry, I don't mean to unleash a diatribe here.. but y'know, what have you got to lose? And why not just ask and see what happens? <br /><br />(but then again, I do have a thing for slightly awkward and completely clueless boys) <br /><br />Rishahttp://www.readmeanything.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post-35244170190191428252013-08-22T16:34:58.324+10:002013-08-22T16:34:58.324+10:00"I don't think it's about masking who..."I don't think it's about masking who you are or adapting yourself to what they want, I think it's about knowing when to take that risk and put your feelings on the table"<br /><br />Hmm yes, I agree with this Tom. Thanks! Haha and yes, I am all for the 'chicken' approach. Although, the problem there is, I am absolutely terrible with reading signs, so even after hinting that I may like them, I fail at reading what the answer is anyway haha!<br /><br />Dave - Ah yes well, it is not the first date that I would worry about... it is trying to get that fist date in the first place :)Azzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09788116476193441229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post-16347211947162834652013-08-22T02:05:25.365+10:002013-08-22T02:05:25.365+10:00I'm no expert at this, but I think a lot of it...I'm no expert at this, but I think a lot of it comes down to being comfortable in your own skin. If both of you are, and your personalities match up, even a first date shouldn't feel completely awkward.<br />Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15049718613278367082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post-46735746098566657932013-08-21T07:30:44.145+10:002013-08-21T07:30:44.145+10:00I forgot to add the disclaimer of all of the above...I forgot to add the disclaimer of all of the above being purely based on my unsuccessful experience! Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15778063960932817300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post-3296604027863172252013-08-21T07:29:52.909+10:002013-08-21T07:29:52.909+10:00I don't think it's about masking who you a...I don't think it's about masking who you are or adapting yourself to what they want, I think it's about knowing when to take that risk and put your feelings on the table. I'm very much like you mate, I find it very easy making friends but a horrendous time converting a friendship in to anything more. For example, this work colleague of yours, I assume you're on some form of good standing? I have a work colleague who I will chat to every day for hours, we joke around and I find it really easy with her. It's at the stage where if I wanted it to go any where I (or her) would need to DO something about that, be that telling her how you feel or a slightly more chicken approach of making it obvious and trying to judge her reaction. <br /><br />Bloody hell I got lost in what I was saying there... to summarise... I'm sure girls have fallen for your personality many a time, but that means nothing unless you move on it.Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15778063960932817300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post-14584660428472734652013-08-21T02:04:07.090+10:002013-08-21T02:04:07.090+10:00Ha, well, I wasn't meaning as extreme as '...Ha, well, I wasn't meaning as extreme as 'Pick Up Artist' rules! I meant like, those harmless ones where guys try and 'guess' what girls like (and I am sure girls try and guess what guys like as well). Those 'tips' you hear from friends or whatever.<br /><br />No no, I would never do the PUA stuff. Azzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09788116476193441229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3712853332958369348.post-19252763460216464752013-08-21T01:42:53.669+10:002013-08-21T01:42:53.669+10:00Never ever ever do the pick up artist crap. It'...Never ever ever do the pick up artist crap. It's gross and manipulative, and if you want a relationship of equals, that is a terrible way to start. Especially since PUA advice is often to "have the mindset you're her superior."Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10590366016057988752noreply@blogger.com